There are wishes that every single person wants to attain – such as happiness, love, and peace, while there are wishes that are interesting for somebody but not for everybody – such as reputation, promotion or money.
Same can be said about the wishes that people have when they have a serious illness. There are some studies on things that people wish to have when they become very sick. The study shows that some of the wishes are common among almost all the patients, while there are wishes that are specific to some people but not to everybody.
Most people wish to have “physical and mental comfort”, “good relationship with family and medical staff,” and “being respected as an individual, and “maintaining hope and pleasure”, when they have got very sick. However, there are other wishes which may look very natural to some of you, but not to other people. The following are some examples: while many people wish to “fight the illness as much as I can”, some people consider illness as a part of their natural life and try to accept it and live with it. Some people consider religion is an integral part in coping with serious illnesses, while other people do not think so.
You should not expect that your wishes are obvious to everybody, even to your doctor or to your loved ones. They may understand very well part of your wishes, but they are not necessarily familiar with all of your wishes. This is especially true when it comes to sensitive topics such as life and death, or decisions that may relate to it. The key message is that you should clearly tell your wish to your loving ones, so that they can work with you to effectively reach what you wish for.